While almost any man can father a child, there is so much more to the important role of being a dad in a child’s life. Let’s look at who a father is, what are his significant challenges and why he is so important.
Who is a father?
According to Wikipedia, a father is “the male parent of a child.” He is a man who has begotten a child. Thus, every child has or had a father somewhere.
However, a father is not only the person who has fathered a child. He may have a parental, legal, or social relationship with the child besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children. A father can, therefore, be a relative, step-father, or foster-father, among others, who play the role of father.
We all have that only father to who we are biologically connected, unlike the pleasant or unpleasant relationship. Most of us do also have that particular father, sent to us by Mother Nature and to whom we owe so much. We all have a father anyhow even if they don’t live with or see him very often.
The burden of fathering
From the marketplace to the workplace, it is mothers who are still perceived as having that “special bond” with their children.
You should normally bond with your child even before he comes through his mother’s birth canal, but it is not always the case as the mothers more often reject fathers due to their hormones. Mothers generally feel uncomfortable during their pregnancies. Moms easily frustrate the future fathers when they try to be close to their babies: here is where the battle commence!
Also, some men almost feel a sense of panic and want to run away as the financial pressure increase when babies come.
Additionally, the dad generally feels that the parenting is the mum’s responsibility and if they accept this notion, then they may not feel entirely comfortable being an actively involved father because they will have entered a feminine domain.
Besides, more people celebrate Mother’s Day than Father’s Day and spend more on gifts for Moms than for Dads. This imbalance raises questions about the role and significance of the father in parenting and can be exasperating.
The amount of research devoted to Dad’s role in parenting is dwarfed by the more substantial research dedicated to the importance of the mother.
The other great burden of fathering is the demonstration of true masculinity: fathers, sometimes, have to face mothers’ barriers when it comes to discipline children, to take just one example.
Another thing, children generally prefer to be with their mothers, especially the youngest. Let’s not mention those fathers who face problems adjusting to life without their children after divorce.
Father stay at home.
Do not get me wrong! With this, I don’t mean men should always stay at home. This part is for all those men who for some reasons or others, have lost their right and obligation on their children. Bear in mind that a dad remains a dad, nothing can reverse the situation.
Millions of children and teenagers grow up without their biological father, and often when you ask them about it, you hear a tone of arguments. Some fathers have been forced out of their homes; others have deliberately taken their heels.
No matters what the situation is, fathers should know that Children need and want the care of men in their lives. They value the idea of a father or a father-figure. If men can’t live with their children, they can still keep in contact with their children. Children appreciate hearing from their fathers and knowing that their fathers care about them.
If you can’t support your children or provide materially for their needs, you can still give them love, affection and support. Never stay away from your children, try hard and concede because your children need you.
Some situation might be more stringent, strive to be the father, but if your efforts are hollow, remember you remain a father.
To all the father who desperately did not want to leave their children, who swear they have tried to be with them, who may feel unworthy of fatherhood, never give up, stay at home as home is really where the heart is. Staying at home does not always mean being physically at home. Try hard to build a relationship with your children as your affection will shape their happiness for life.
To all those fathers who have abandoned their children-those missing dad who are never there, our relationships with our children are critical for their healthy development. So, go home and stay home as nowhere is as sweet as home after all.
When one talks about parenting, one cannot dismiss the vital role that fathers have to play in raising a child. Although a mother’s love is undoubtedly irreplaceable, children need their fathers to develop healthily, too. Fathers are crucial in their children’s lives and trust me, fatherhood is not a piece of cake, but all is not bleak!
Glory of fatherhood
Research has found that fathers tend to be markedly less likely to develop stress-related conditions. “Dads are less likely to have chest pain, insomnia, fatigue, indigestion and dizziness,” according to psychologists.
Men who have families to return to at the end of the day are happier at work, according to a study published in the Academy of Management Perspectives journal.
Moreover, young men are frequently criticised for being reckless, self-obsessed and self-absorbed. But get a couple of babies under your belt and all that could change.
And the sex side! Countless studies have claimed that fathers who are more involved with raising their children are rewarded with an improved sex life.
Also, “one of the very best thing about fatherhood is that a dad can be a kid again. You have a perfect excuse to act like a child, and no one thinks you’re crazy.”
Therefore, the most important thing you can do for your children is to enjoy them! They will notice, and it will make them feel confident in themselves in a way that nothing else can.
Were you a father yesterday? Be a father today and tomorrow as nothing and no one can replace you. Fathers are Kings!